It's Not Always Those That Lose Their Cool Needing Help

There is a common misconception in our society that those who loose their cool need anger management help. While it is definitely true that those who snap often need assistance, the reality is there are many people that do not loose their wits needing help before they do snap under the pressure from their pent up anger. Internal anger is often worse than external anger which is why people that do not express their anger regularly may need help more than those flipping a brick regularly. Holding anger inside and never expressing it to others is dangerous for three reasons: it may cause depression, shorten one's lifespan and finally manifest itself externally through a major outburst of rage.

If you appear to keep your cool, but are internalizing all of your anger, you run a greater chance of becoming clinically depressed as depression is often defined as anger turned internal. Walking around holding in a ton of negative energy will eventually start to weigh a person down. The mere act of just waking up in the morning when you are angry and depressed can take all of the energy you have allotted for the day, making every hour more difficult to get through.

Not only will storing pent up anger lead to depression, but it can shorten your lifespan. Anger triggers the hormone adrenaline which originates from the adrenal gland located on the kidneys. Researchers have formulated theories that constant stimulation of the adrenal gland may lead to high blood pressure and high cholesterol, both of which are precursors to heart disease. It has also been theorized that the constant running of the adrenal system can also lead to the immune system becoming depressed, causing a person to be sick more often and possibly even allowing cancer to move into the body. All of these problems can and will shorten the lifespan of a person.

Many times when you hear of a person that goes "postal" in the workplace, you hear their colleagues stating that they would have never guessed that particular person to do such a thing. They state that their co-worker was so quiet and never had anything mean to say about anyone. Such a person can only take so much before actually snapping which is what eventually may happen after years of carrying around pent up anger.

Knowing that anger doesn't only manifest itself in the common rage form is the first step of the battle.


Sooo my komen: thank God i'm not a good rage keeper hehe...at least i'll burst it out here in the blog...well who knows, it does help...A LOT! without me having to scold any1...